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Lessee, what else is going on ...

Well yes, living in Oak Bay for over a year now. Never thought I'd like it here with all the stereotyping but I actually do. I love that it's really quiet and peaceful and everyone minds their own business. It's also quite central and close to work - well my work anyway. We're within a short walk to the water which I really like and close to shopping and other stuff. Still, sometimes it's a bit surreal to walk around in early evening with not another soul around - where the $%#$ is everyone??

Work? Well work is work and I'm still at St. Ann's at the same ministry. Hard to believe but I've been there 10 years now - holy $^#@! Mind, I've moved around a lot and been in lots of different positions and areas but that's still a big chunk of time. I've been in the current position for 3+ years now and really do enjoy it. Challenging but rewarding at the same time. However ...

I've accepted a 7-mos TA to work in Vancouver, starting in mid-October! It's an office formerly in another ministry but now part of ours as a result of the recent shuffle. Still in the area I've currently working in and really enjoy so that's a real plus, and I already know the manager and some of the staff there so again, another advantage. With all those positives, I guess the risk or unknown is really with the prospect of living in Van after 16 years of living in Vic. I can't quite wrap my mind around that yet.

Well it's about damn time.

I can't believe that it's been two years, well actually more than that, that I last posted here. Holy macaroni as one of my colleagues would say (I can't believe I'm quoting her).

I just read the last post and yep, lots have happened in the interim this time around too.

Let's see ....

• Separation agreement was finalized in July 2007 and the cheque was cut, so to speak. The last bit of that process was such an ordeal - hard to even think about it even now. So much animosity, I think it really ruined any shred of our relationship.

• And I filed for divorce later that year -- why wait was my thinking -- that became final in February 2007. Have to say that felt REALLY good and quite empowering.

• Things have worked out with G. Give him perseverance for hanging in there thru thick and thin with me. I still find it hard to trust completely and feel committed fully but I think I'm making progress. I find it scary how much I care about him -- but I do inspite of myself.

• We've done some travelling together -- 3 weeks in Cambodia in Nov 2006, that was a great trip and fulfilled a long-held wish of mine. We also did short trips to Maui in April 2007 and Cancun in Jan 2008, as well as Calgary twice - for Stampede in July 2007 and again in Nov for G's dad's bday. Hope to go somewhere overseas this fall.

• I guess the biggest change of all - we moved in together last May 2007. I was tired of my basement suite and we were spending lots of time together anyway. We ended up finding a nice little house to rent in deepest darkest Oak Bay - my faves are the two baths and the dishwasher. We've had lots of fun fixing it up to suit us and furnishing. It's nice to have a place where you really feel at home.

There's more - but that'll be in the next post.

It's been a while ...

... well, since my last post. In the meantime, lots has happened:

• went to Cuba and Calgary in that order and (not on purpose) shed much of my "largest organ in the human body." (ugh, that was gross) -- good trip tho!

• became an aunt for the first time! (my sis had a baby boy)

• changed branches/divisions/directors/adms at work but stayed in the same job
  

• went to Kamloops twice in 2 weeks for work (the cabbie recognized me)
  

• went camping at Tofino/Long Beach over the May long wknd and had a really great time

• did a 10K "offshore" outrigger canoeing race

And tomorrow, going to Salt Spring for the weekend.

To top it off, we are close to completing a separation agreement. Came to terms last weekend and have got the 2nd draft from the lawyer/mediator. So just a matter of getting independent legal advice on the draft next week (to make sure it's all kosher) -- and then getting the paperwork for the conveyancing, transfer of title (he's buying me out) and payment done.

I'm trying not to get my hopes up too much (since it's fallen apart once before) but I'm really hopeful that this time, it'll all come together. I don't feel like I can completely "start over" until that part of my life is finished.

Re-making my life

I'm starting this to record an extreme makeover project -- my life.

I was in a relationship with someone for nearly 15 years and am now separated. Still hard to write that down without thinking hard about it.

I wonder if it'll be that hard a year from now?

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